As women we slowly glide from our youth to more invested years of wisdom and we realize all the more the importance of our unfading internal beauty over whatever we choose to adorn ourselves in on the outside. We know we may each have worn things "back in the day" that give us pause, that make us think "Oh, what was I thinking?!..." yet that also can give us the perspective of:
"I may have made some rather questionable wardrobe choices but I am not those choices. I can give grace to myself as in all things, not sweat over the too-short shorts, the past barely-there breast baring tube top, the summer I wore the too short sheer skirt.... I can move on and give that same grace to other women... to not view them with scorn, with judgment or a wrinkled nose but instead with a smile and love."
We can be mindful and remember that the clothes a woman wears don't tell the whole story nor is she a walking advertisement in a desire for sex.
At the end of the day we know as women we are all susceptible to the grave danger of being viewed by a man out there with wrong thoughts, being viewed by a man with lecherous intentions, being viewed by a man as someone to be used, abused and discarded. As women we are all susceptible to being viewed like this on the street, in a parking lot, at a game, at a party, in a bar… whether in a dress or pants. And for a man with those thoughts, those intentions, a predatory-like agenda, there is a risk to us all called...
As women we know it doesn't matter what we wear... it's not an invitation for a man to rape. There may be men who are cocky and flagrantly believe that a woman's questionable clothing translates to her "asking for it" yet this couldn't be further from the truth. A man who rapes is not strong but weak, wishes to dominate something or someone because of his ignorantly selfish, addictive, narcissistic flesh, a man who is perverse and not walking in light but instead walking in darkness and taking what is not his. As women our clothes aren't an invitation for our bodies to be taken, to be used, to be abused, nor to be cat called at, to be intimidated, to be provoked, to be seen as less than.
As women we shouldn't have to wear t-shirts that say "NO". Unfortunately, society has had a history of placing blame on the woman for being "too this", "too that", "too drunk", "too loose" and hence "allowing" it to occur... which couldn't be further from reality. The truth is… a man who rapes? It wouldn't matter if a woman wore a ski suit; if he intends to commit a criminal act like rape he will do so regardless of what his target is wearing. Rape is a violent violating criminal act. In this world we as women need more men to be vocal against rape. The sole responsibility to voice concern should not rest on women's shoulders alone. We need men's support, their spreading of awareness... we need them to be the one guy who when other men are cat calling a woman on the sidewalk or grabbing a woman's arm... to say "Hey! Cut it out! Leave her alone!"
We need more men like that.
And as women we can all lift each other up, to inspire, to comfort and to take a stand together...
There is no
"dressing up RAPE"
to be acceptable...
It's wrong no matter what she wore.
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