Hello! I'm so glad you're here!
My name is Jen, I'm a divorced mom and I started gracepowerstrength.com in 2012.
I have been coaching men and women in their divorce recovery for seven years now. My background has been one of surviving a twelve year marriage, divorce, alienation, going pro se and a custody battle to now living life well post divorce. Check out the site and Instagram for plenty of free valuable resources so you can begin living life well too. If you are interested in coaching services I'm happy to help you. Set an appointment here on the site using the appointment scheduler for a private support session with me to discuss your situation and let's get you to a better place today! You deserve to live a life you are proud of! (scroll below for more about me) |
In 1999 at the young age of twenty two I married a man whom I loved and we had two children; a boy with high functioning autism and a girl. I was the quintessential 1950's homemaker and mom. I believed in the man being the provider while I created a beautiful home, raising children with empathy, nurturing and joy. I believed in the white picket fence, the garden I tended, the cakes I baked. I believed in love and that no matter what problems we may have had we could as a team overcome them. I believed in keeping vows for better or worse and living happily ever after.
So in 2012 I found myself facing a very life changing circumstance. I was filing for a sudden divorce after 12 years of marriage upon discovering my husbands infidelity. As the divorce progressed I was also needing to recover from years of emotional abuse, a child custody battle, fighting parental alienation, navigating a family court system I knew nothing about and a very bleak financial outlook. Needless to say I was extremely overwhelmed. That was me. At times feeling like a failure even though my inner voice and God kept saying my worth was not tied in my current circumstance. At times my faith was strong. Other times I felt like I was literally hanging on by a thread. Admittedly there were times I even shook my fist at God. How did I persevere? By the grace of God I was given the power and strength to keep going along with implementing the recovery tools I have learned along the way. I am now recovered from narcissistic abuse and today stand in triumph living my life with peace, freedom and joy.
So in 2012 I found myself facing a very life changing circumstance. I was filing for a sudden divorce after 12 years of marriage upon discovering my husbands infidelity. As the divorce progressed I was also needing to recover from years of emotional abuse, a child custody battle, fighting parental alienation, navigating a family court system I knew nothing about and a very bleak financial outlook. Needless to say I was extremely overwhelmed. That was me. At times feeling like a failure even though my inner voice and God kept saying my worth was not tied in my current circumstance. At times my faith was strong. Other times I felt like I was literally hanging on by a thread. Admittedly there were times I even shook my fist at God. How did I persevere? By the grace of God I was given the power and strength to keep going along with implementing the recovery tools I have learned along the way. I am now recovered from narcissistic abuse and today stand in triumph living my life with peace, freedom and joy.
I learned that merely surviving is no way to live. Through concerted steps in personal development and post divorce recovery I put my visionary skills to work and began actively creating the life I wanted. I no longer wanted to be plagued by overwhelming trauma, anxiety and depression predominantly due to my dire circumstances. I no longer wanted to cry in my pillow which I dare say had sadly become an almost daily occurrence.
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What I did want was a beautiful life I could be proud of and thrive not just survive. I wanted to inspire other women (and men) struggling post divorce that wanted to know the steps to take to live well. I initially started my blog and website gracepowerstrength.com to share my story regarding struggles with divorce and child custody litigation. Sharing my experience led me to giving others insight in how to recover from their divorces over the past seven years. My website grew over 6+ years into a huge following of over a million views worldwide, and that has now led to helping others live life WELL post divorce. I have personally found the ten tips below to be vital in living well post divorce.
10 Things That Help Us Live Well Post Divorce:
1.) Keeping boundaries with unhealthy toxic ex spouses .
2.) Keeping the communication you have with your ex non-emotional in co-parenting to not give them any supply to their ego.
3.) Going no contact with those who have shown through their actions they are a threat to our mental health even if they are family.
4.) Ensuring we are having open loving communication with our children so they feel heard and understood.
5.) Practicing mindfulness and living present while learning from the past.
6.) Putting into action making healthy choices that translate to self care such as eating healthy, exercise, enjoying nature and relaxing.
7.) Finding online support for healing from narcissistic abuse and friends in real life who can relate or at least have empathy.
8.) Living life to the fullest and living new experiences or taking up old hobbies we once enjoyed.
9.) Stopping to smell the roses and enjoy the little things: fresh cut or store bought flowers, scented candles, a good book, taking photos etc.
10.) Maintaining our finances well, going back to school or finding new ways to earn more if finances are limited.
I have been very blessed post divorce to have the support I've had. My mom is my best friend and I have long term friends that I've known since I was a teenager. I grew up in the Dallas Fort Worth area and lived in California for a couple years when first married before moving back to Texas to start our family. My dream would be to live in Santa Barbara California and write books poolside that give clarity and healing regarding narcissistic relationships. But for now I am enjoying my life and creating my happiness here. The emotional abuse I endured in my marriage was horrific and I wish it had never happened however in that the silver lining is it has made me an incredibly strong, confident, resilient person who now knows who she is despite the gas-lighting; kind, nurturing, positive and hopeful. I am able to have joy in Him despite so much loss and knowing He has been with me every step of the way. I have gained insight into who I am and now hold tightly to my self worth knowing I am worth more anything negatively said or done toward me. I would say to you today to remember you are worth so much more than what you've been through.
10 Things That Help Us Live Well Post Divorce:
1.) Keeping boundaries with unhealthy toxic ex spouses .
2.) Keeping the communication you have with your ex non-emotional in co-parenting to not give them any supply to their ego.
3.) Going no contact with those who have shown through their actions they are a threat to our mental health even if they are family.
4.) Ensuring we are having open loving communication with our children so they feel heard and understood.
5.) Practicing mindfulness and living present while learning from the past.
6.) Putting into action making healthy choices that translate to self care such as eating healthy, exercise, enjoying nature and relaxing.
7.) Finding online support for healing from narcissistic abuse and friends in real life who can relate or at least have empathy.
8.) Living life to the fullest and living new experiences or taking up old hobbies we once enjoyed.
9.) Stopping to smell the roses and enjoy the little things: fresh cut or store bought flowers, scented candles, a good book, taking photos etc.
10.) Maintaining our finances well, going back to school or finding new ways to earn more if finances are limited.
I have been very blessed post divorce to have the support I've had. My mom is my best friend and I have long term friends that I've known since I was a teenager. I grew up in the Dallas Fort Worth area and lived in California for a couple years when first married before moving back to Texas to start our family. My dream would be to live in Santa Barbara California and write books poolside that give clarity and healing regarding narcissistic relationships. But for now I am enjoying my life and creating my happiness here. The emotional abuse I endured in my marriage was horrific and I wish it had never happened however in that the silver lining is it has made me an incredibly strong, confident, resilient person who now knows who she is despite the gas-lighting; kind, nurturing, positive and hopeful. I am able to have joy in Him despite so much loss and knowing He has been with me every step of the way. I have gained insight into who I am and now hold tightly to my self worth knowing I am worth more anything negatively said or done toward me. I would say to you today to remember you are worth so much more than what you've been through.
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Yes, you are a survivor ... but you are so much more than that! You are meant to be a thriver and deserve every happiness and healing that life has to offer. Recovery looks beautiful on you. I can help you get to a better place. I offer coaching support to those recovering from a relationship or divorcing a narcissistic personality disordered individual. You can book a support recovery package appointment which includes my exit workbook (to leave a narcissist) and ongoing text support from me using the scheduler here on the website. You deserve to be more than just a survivor but a thriver. Also be sure to follow me on Instagram where I post daily grams and stories!
See you there!
Love,
Jen
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