"A steep price to pay for 20 minutes of action"
I really thought I'd heard it all until I'd read that sentence by Brock Turner's father.
I've heard of people not taking responsibility for their actions until after the fact.
I've heard of people not owning up to what they've done due to embarrassment or shame.
Brock Turner is none of those things.
Brock Turner is not a
"swimmer with a promising Olympian future."
Brock Turner is a rapist.
Brock Turner CHOSE to forfeit his future
when HE CHOSE to rape.
And his father… ? Where do I begin?
He is an evil all of his own…
The apple doesn't fall far from
the tree boys and girls.
Brock Turner's father is an enabler
through and through.
Brock Turner's father wants to whine and bemoan how his son may not have the future he so vividly had once upon a time… never once considering that the woman his son raped never envisioned HER future including being raped… and the thing about rape is… it never completely goes away. It stays with you. I know this. Because having survived an attempted rape and also an actual rape… even with time you always look over your shoulder, you still have memories you'd love to forget, you still have flashbacks and PTSD is alive and well; a dark companion you carry with you everywhere you go… it making it's presence known with a high startle reflex, nightmares, anger and an anxiety that is a whole different animal than generalized.
But your son knows nothing about that.
You obviously know nothing about that as well.
All you know is your son is "suffering"
because his steak dinners
just aren't quite as tasty as they once were.
Awww, that's too bad.
No one cares.
Your son seems to have not gotten the memo that men should PROTECT women. That is one of their responsibilities. They are not here to prey, stalk, physically assault or sexually assault. You seem to believe the victim in this passively laid there through "20 minutes of action". She was out COLD, completely unconscious and even if she WAS conscious… guess what? No consent? STILL RAPE. You make a deeper wound and you hurt this sweet innocent woman even more than what she's already been through when you say it was "20 minutes of action". Really? HOW DARE YOU. How dare you invalidate what she went through… what she luckily lived through at the horrific actions of your son. Reading the victim's letter of what she went through… I was DISGUSTED. I have never read anything more DEMEANING and DEGRADING than when I read what she endured.
Obviously you have no decency much like your son… and that is shameful. A father can love his son, yes… a father can want what's best for him… a father can be completely devastated that his child's future is ashamables… that his son is the one in the papers… that it's his son's face whose splashed across televisions and article after article. I get that. HOWEVER your reckless, un-empathetic and grossly atrocious statements about your son not deserving his future being ruined? Your son did it. YOUR SON RAPED HER. Your son did not enjoy 20 minutes of action. Your son enjoyed raping an unconscious woman who was completely helpless and was treated like a mere object to toy with. Your son had her strewn out on the bare ground like wayward litter behind a dumpster as he defiled her. So the response you had does not fit what your son has done. Your response... since you show such GROSS INEPTNESS at best but most likely display signs of a personality disorder should have been as follows:
"I am sorry. On behalf of my son I am deeply, utterly, grossly sorry for what my son did to you. I am sorry that he raped you. I am sorry you were treated as you were and I know those words don't even begin to touch what he's done but I need to say them to you all the same. I need you to know that even though I love my son I DO NOT CONDONE what he's done to you. I need you to know that even though I love my son and will be there for him… I do not condone rape. I need you to know that my son must take responsibility for raping you. What he chose to do is heinous and requires, DESERVES punishment and a hefty one at that. I need you to know that what he did is not okay. I need you to know that I am appalled my son did this. I need you to know that I am deeply disappointed in him and who I believed or knew him to be. I need you to know that there is zero excuse for his behavior and he must be held accountable. I hope for healing for you… I hope for comfort from friends and family and a higher power… I pray for you and your family and friends as you navigate this and it's long aftermath. I hope for strength as you go through this and I hope one day my son realizes the enormity and reality of what he's done to you… I pray that he will realize the depth of pain both physical and mental he's put you through and the future ramifications of his choices that you will endure. I pray for his heart to be turned and for him to recognize that him raping you was not only an act against you but all women and God. I pray for his sincere repentance and for him to acknowledge what he's done to you. Lastly, my heart goes out to you and I must say always remember you did nothing to deserve being raped. You did nothing to deserve being treated as you have. You did nothing nor wore nothing nor said nothing to deserve being raped. No woman does. You did nothing wrong and I will do everything I can within my power to raise awareness about rape and ensure that this never happens to another woman again."
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