Healing A Broken Heart By Loving Yourself

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​Healing a broken heart can be the hardest thing right? It's something we didn't ask for. We didn't go into the relationship asking to be hurt or even worse betrayed. But ugh does it ever happen. ​So we get left, or we have to choose divorce because we feel jammed up in a corner to because our  spouse decided to go "have fun" and "find happiness" at our expense... when hello(!) their happiness was right in front of them it's just that some people are too stupid, blind or selfish to realize that.... until they are old and alone or bald, bitter and with someone that is half their age but makes them want to tear their eyeballs out daily because they are demanding and wanting more, more, more; aka probably money, stuff or kids. Geez. Yeah, that just sounds like a real dream doesn't it? So here you are... hurt and bawling your eyes out. Or maybe you're so numb you're like um yeah I'm way past that part and I can't even feel anything anymore I'm so freaking tired. Yeah, been there. I get it. 


​Healing A Broken Heart Is Done By Yourself Not The One Who Hurt You 
We may think that healing our broken heart means getting healed and closure by the one who hurt it. Wrong. It's not at all that route. Healing a broken heart also does not mean finding someone new. Wrong again. That's destructive and using a temporary band aid and I guarantee you will make you feel worse later on. So, what to do? Do you. Do what you need for you. It's time to take a break from ALL intimate relationships and focus solely on YOU. It's time to put all your energy into you, healing, self love, self care, building your confidence AND building your finances, your resume, your skill sets, your talents, your interests, your knowledge, your everything. That's how you heal your broken heart. 


​It will be hard. You may want to reach out and stay connected. Don't. You don't need to unless you have kids, go no contact. If you have kids go limited contact; only talk about the kids and keep it emotionless and professional. It will help you heal faster having that distance between you. Stay strong and don't break your no contact or limited contact rule. The more you focus on you and bettering yourself the faster you will heal. Yes, it will take time but it's worth it... you're worth it! No matter what others have said. I believe a necessary tool in learning to heal your broken heart is implementing the efforts into loving yourself and a great resource for that is the workbook I have linked to below. Be sure to check it out! 


HEALING A BROKEN HEART BY LOVING YOURSELF 

​1. Pack away all photos and tangible memories you shared with this person.
​2. Delete or block their phone number or only communicate by email or Our Family Wizard app if you have children you must co-parent together for. 
​3. Get in touch with nature. Take walks, garden, buy yourself flowers for the house. You will feel pampered. 
​4. Exercise. You can jog at home, your neighborhood, trails, the gym, etc. Get your cardio in and feel good. 
​5. Take your calcium and vitamin D because a deficit can cause depression. And weak bones. 
​6. Get regular sleep and buy a satin pillowcase to ward off puffiness and wrinkles. 
7. Paint your nails/ toes or get a mani/ pedi to feel better. 
​8. Read bible verses or inspiring books to feel empowered.  Journal. 
​9. Balance solitude with friends and family; get the support you need. 
​10. Start setting goals to achieve; building your finances, your resume, your talents. Start figuring out what your strengths are so you can build on them to improve your life in general without a man.​​

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