How To Be Happy Post Divorce & Best Book To Read

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When we escape a miserable marriage specifically a toxic one we may not realize at the time as we stand on the cusp of staying where we've been and peering outward into the unknown just how brave we are. Doing things like leaving what we've known as being familiar however toxic and taking that leap afraid is one of the bravest things we will ever do in life. 


We may just not realize it at the time. 


How To Be Happy Post Divorce
So what can you do when you are determined to put your happy pants on and move forward as a fully functioning THRIVING single person? A lot of it has to do with discovering what makes you happy, what you need or want that you haven't had in the past and want for your future and not listening to the naysayers.  Yep, you heard that right. Not listening to the naysayers. 


Staying True To You
Sometimes those are the "well meaning" people in your life, friends, acquaintances, that great aunt, co-workers, people at parties, etc that nose into your business, find out you're divorced and immediately label you as some project to be fixed. Sometimes these people try to convince you "there are other fish in the sea" , or "you'll find someone... you just need to change your attitude..." and let you know with their disapproving tone/look that you simply need to be re-programmed and tsk tsk such a shame for you because you could offer someone so much if you just weren't so jaded, broken, messed up, screwed up, damaged, cynical, etc. 


The Free Advice Crowd & Debbie Downers
Oh, please. Don't you wish these people would mind their own business? Remember that these types are often not happy in their own marriages and are secretly jealous of your freedom to eat 3 ice cream sandwiches in bed at 1 a.m. or jet off to Vegas on a whim because there's no one to tell you no. Yes, they are on a mission to be a Debbie Downer but it doesn't mean you have to listen or take their advice. It's these types of interactions that try to bring us down and are pathetic attempts to make you second guess yourself and your decisions. 


Ignore, ignore. Move on gracefully and do what's best for you. 


When You're Part of The Problem
The other naysayer is probably you. You know that lil voice in your head that tries to tell yourself that you maybe could have tried harder in your marriage (despite he or she being a royal abusive butt) or maybe that voice that whispers you can't create that blog, business or get a different job or move somewhere new or navigate something unknown and scary? Yeah, that one. Did you know that one of the biggest things in life that holds women back is "I don't know" and "I'm too scared, uneducated, uninformed to do that..." 


It's true. It's time to start thinking about what you can do that you've been holding back from and been too afraid to pursue. It's time to start digging deep and asking yourself
"What do I really want for my life?" It's time. Take that first step... 

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​Protecting Your Happiness
The other key to being happy post divorce is reading about the ways you can help yourself protect your happiness. That is related to going no contact among other strategies so you can be healthy and move forward. This leads me to mention this particular book on doing just that... 



 Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You by Susan J Elliott

​One important factor you need to know is Susan Elliott made the "no contact rule" popular and we know this technique can be instrumental in moving forward toward a more healthy peaceful mindset during and post divorce. She also implements the task of teaching you how to write inventory of why you are better off not being in that relationship. This is a really practical book that is sure to help you move forward toward better and really thrive. These practices have helped me immensely. I would highly recommend this book and hope it's a blessing to you.

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